Forgive me if this is going to be basic and/or a stupid question - I'm somewhat new to CK2, and this mod is one of the reasons I even bought it in the first place.
Anyway, I'm using 0.1.1, playing the Crowned Stag scenario as House Dondarrion. I was having what I thought was a pretty successful game - after one generation of lords, I was able to conquer all the territory marked as the de jure Dornish Marches. I was all excited to claim the title of High Lord of the Dornish Marches, but the option wasn't there - some Swann descendent holding a county in a completely different High Lordship held the title, and when I tried to usurp it, the game told me I couldn't usurp the title from someone in the same realm unless I had a claim.
In vanilla CK2, there are usually territorial requirements for making a claim to a title higher than your own - i.e., "hold 2 of 4 counties" or some such. In this case, I hold all 4 counties associated with the high lordship and still apparently don't have a claim. My tendency is to assume that the only way I *can* make a claim on that title is through marriage/succession, but that's going to take decades of game time to manufacture, and I'm already at my character's demesne limit. Since I'm still just a lord, offering landed titles to anyone means I lose that county, but I can't claim any more territory without breaking my demesne limit. Which means I'd be kind of treading water until I was able to get in the line of succession for the aforementioned high lordship.
Needless to say, it's a little frustrating to have done so well in conquering everything and then just be stuck and seemingly unable to make a claim for high lordship of territory I fully own and occupy. But I'm also aware that I'm kind of a n00b, and that there may have been something I missed or did wrong to make this situation happen.
So, I guess my questions are: 1) Is there any way for me to claim that High Lordship without breeding into it? 2) Was there something I should have done along the way to keep from painting myself into a corner like this? 3) If there is no way for me to make that claim, what am I supposed to do from here on out?
Sorry for the essay. Any help much appreciated.